What’s Our Problem With Women? Part 3

Do men really have the rule over women?

Entire denominations and countless local churches oppress and demean women. In too many christian households wives and daughters are made to feel second best because of poor translations and a lazy understanding of Scripture. It is time for the truth to come out!

Let’s start by making sense of a much misunderstood verse in Genesis, the very first book in the Bible. In chapter 3:16 we see Yahweh pronouncing the curse on the woman that was the result of the first act of disobedience. In this curse we read”Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you”.

Does Genesis 3:16 give husbands the rule over their wives?

First thought: The curse the woman had brought on herself said that conception and birth would be difficult, and she would have relationship issues with her husband.  As for the man, he had ruined the earth, the eco-system was messed up, he was going to toil and farming was going to be difficult. Six thousand years later we are still struggling with the consequences of that fateful day, but let me ask a question. Do farmers just accept thorns or do they work to clear them so we can have proper harvests? Another thought; do we deny women pain control when they are in labour? The truth is we battle the curse everyday, we arent supposed to say “Hey ho, that’s the way it is”. We work hard at overcoming it until Jesus comes and finishes the job. That being true means we should do the same with the whole’ male rule’ bit, we should use all our energy to fight it like we would any other outcome of the curse. But there’s more…

What does Genesis 3:16 really say?

In verse 7 of the next chapter of Genesis we see God in conversation with Cain, and God issues the divine warning concerning sin. It is here that we discover that sin’s desire was for Cain.

Another question; did sin have an uncontrollable sensual desire for Cain, or did it desire to control him? The answer is obvious, it was a desire for control. Sin wants to be in charge and bring its havoc and destruction in every way that it can.

Now here’s the good bit…

The word desire (teshuqah) is exactly the same in Genesis 3:16 and 4:7, and we now know that it means a desire for control. We could read genesis 3:16 as “Your desire will be to control your husband”. The curse meant that instead of the man and the woman living together in a mutual equality, she would now, through her fear and selfishness, be trying to control him, and he, with his physical advantage would be trying to rule her, and that my friends goes on to this very day. There is a global battle of the sexes raging that was never in the plan of God; it is a result of the fall and not a blueprint for domestic order.

A word for the men.

If you have ever told your wife to submit, felt that women shouldn’t teach or if you are okay with your wife doing the bulk of the chores even when she goes to work just as much as you do; you are part of the problem. My advice? Do what I did, change your heart, buy her flowers, do the washing up, whatever, but let her know who she really is.

We need a change of attitude.

In the Kingdom of God there is no lording it over one another, that is what the world does. There is no forcing women into submission or making them the house maids; we were created the same but different, and we are expected to submit one to another out of reverence for Christ. Without a change of attitude this hideous injustice will continue,  women will be brainwashed, forced to deny who God made them to be; made to feel subservient, inadequate and without a voice. It is time for it to stop, it is time to abandon the wicked traditions of men and it is time for those who follow Jesus to speak out and let the truth set the ladies free.

Go well my friends 🙂


About Mark Neale

Husband to Sandra, dad, grandpa, Christian educator, and a John Maxwell Team Member.
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2 Responses to What’s Our Problem With Women? Part 3

  1. It’s amazing how the right thing becomes law in the wrong hands. What I mean by that is that even loving the precious gift of a godly wife is for some a task of obeying God rather than living wonderfully. I think it’s because we have been trained to respond because it’s the right thing to do rather than the good thing. I am finding that everything becomes easy when I keep my eyes on Jesus good work … somehow that energizes me to love more honestly. Just rambling on again, cheers, G

    • gotbygrace says:

      Great comment! I am convinced that the key to life is actually living not doing. Jesus didn’t say “I have come that you may obey more completely”. Rather that we might have His life 😉

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